Why why why???
Why me? Why do strange things always happen to me? I some of you may recall i mentioned in a previous post about how this collection agent guy was flirting with me. I think i talked about that just a little bit around January 1st. So ok. This is the same guy that i've been dealing with while i've been trying to slowly pay off my Verizon phone bill (for my landline) since around the middle of December. He made the comment before when i asked him to hold on because i had another call, and when i clicked back he was like "oh so that's your boyfriend?" and i was like no. So it's been funny to me that this collection agent guy rep. whatever he calls his self was flirting, because most of them are assholes and they try to threaten you to get the money out of you. Which he was sort of doing at first, but was also flirting. As the weeks went on he was less of an asshole, and more flirty.I don't think that i'm a flirt, and i don't know if i come off as a flirt. Actually i'm too shy to flirt, but i dont know, maybe i flirt when someone else starts to flirt with me, i dont know. Or maybe i don't flirt in person, but it's easier for me to flirt with someone over the phone since i dont have to see them in person (i am still a little shy, i havent broken completely out of my shell yet). So i was bored some days ago on this past Saturday, and i called the 1-800 number for the company and dialed his extension. I wanted to ask him if he was flirting with me, but also see where my balance was so that i can make another payment. He didnt answer and he called me back yesterday. So we had small talk, he asked how my weekend was and what i do. I told him nothing since i dont go out and that i spend time at church or with people from church, or either in school, and that since i've always been shy i never really have gone out. So he was like he goes to church too, and was like "Well thats good". So we're just talking, and he's like "You got a sexy voice" and i was like "What?" because i wasnt sure of what he said. Like i know what he said, but i wanted to make sure i wasnt hearing things. I was like "What type of collection agent are you? Don't they record these calls or monitor you?", and i asked that because i use to do telemarketing and they monitored us sometimes. He was like "Well if there's an echo or a click on the line then yea they are, but they're cool". So i'm like ok. I remember before he said "Well i have to be your friend until the bill is paid", but i think he's being a little bit TOO friendly.
So we're just talking and he was sounding like he didnt want to go and was like "Well you can give me a call back friday when you get paid to pay on the bill" and i was like "Well do you want me to call you back before then?" and he was like "No friday is fine" and that he didnt want to take advantage of his job so he had to go. No i have a problem of talking to folks i've never met in life and just seeming like i've known them for years, i don't know, thats just the type of person i am maybe. So like when they call a area code shows up, actually it was a 717 area code. So about 15 minutes after getting off the phone with him, i see a 717 area code come up. So i'm like ok this must be him again and he probably forgot to tell me something about my bill, or just wanted to call me again.
So i answer and i'm like "Hello?" and he's like "Yes may i please speak with Latoya?" and i'm like "Yes" and he was like "Yea this is Mike, i know i shouldnt be doing this, but i got your number from my job and i'm calling you from my cell phone". OK!!! I was like WTF?!?!?!!? In my head i was thinking that, but i couldnt say nothing. So i was like "Ok" and he was like "Well i know i'm wrong, but if you don't want to talk to me i'll delete your number from my cell phone and the next time you'd hear from me is dealing with business (my bill), and who knows, if i'm talking to you know, and getting to know you, maybe one day you'll end up in the Philly area or something". I was SHOCKED! I couldnt believe that! First he was already unprofessional with flirting with me, but flirting is harmless right? Now he put my cell phone number (since that's the only number i have) and put it in his phone to call me to talk? CRAZINESS.
SO what did i do? Like a dummy.....I was like "Ok no that's ok, we can talk" but i was still shocked. Why the heck i said that's ok, i dont know. While i was on the phone with him, my bestfriend back home called twice. The first time i told her and she was like "ohhhh kayyy, is he gonna clear your bill for you or something? pay it or something?" and i was like naw. She called again and was like "You still on the phone with that psycho?" LOL. I don't know why i agreed to talk to him. He had a nice voice, and he's around the same age as me, 25 years old, but i don't know. When i told my cousin back in January that this guy was flirting with me, she was like "see he's flirting with you and don't even know what you look like, he must be ugly then" LOL. I guess i can talk to anyone. My problem was that since i was so shy, i couldnt talk to folks in person, but i could talk up a storm over the phone or on the internet as you can see by my long post and my long comments i leave on people's blogs, lol. I can go on and talk for hours and get not get bored. Just like alot of folks i use to talk with in chatrooms on BP and AOL for hours, or on the Yahoo messenger or AIM for hours. I guess i use to do that since i didnt have any friends. I don't even talk to the friends i have that long. Guy's i chatted with on BP and some i met, i would talk to them on the phone for 2 or more hours everyday. I'd talk to them online for about the same amount of time also. Even with "James", the first time we talked on the phone was for like 7 hours, and we didnt get tired of each other. We talked until like 6am. It's weird. Guys will talk to me for that long, but it seemed as though after they met me, the few i've met from the net, they wouldnt talk to me ever again after that. It took them about a week. Even with "James" we dont talk as much as we use to, but it's because our schedules aren't fitting together and we're both busy. We've slowly went from talking for 7 hours, to 2 hours, to a hour, now down to like 15-30 minutes every other day. Maybe it's just that when you first start talking to someone, it's kinda exciting and you're just trying to learn everything you can about them.
Me and the guy, the Collection guy Mike, talked for about 2 hours. After the first hour i was ready to get off because i was still thinking "this is so weird" and i started to ask him, well about 5 times "Why did you think it was ok to call me?". He was like "Well you sounded like a nice person, someone i would like to talk to, so i just wanted to take that chance". Did this negro not think about how if i was or wasnt a nice person that i could get him fired for crossing the line? But i am a nice person so i couldnt do that :-/ . So within that time talking to him i found out alot about him. He asked me stuff, like if iw as seeing anyone, and i was like yes, kinda sort of, and i told him about "James" and how i like him a whole lot, but we're just "friends" now. Then he started talking and just started telling me everything, and answered questions i asked. These are some things i found out:
-He told me he was the youngest child
-His mother took them to church all the time and didnt want them to do anything if it conflicted with them being in church and would have a fit if it did
-He lost his virginity at 9 years old to another girl around his age (WTF???) and didnt have sex again until he was 13
-He had sex when he was 13 because his older cousin who was 18 told his 15 yr old girlfriend to break him off some because he didnt want himt o grow up and be gay since he was in a housefull of women
-His friends are starting to think he's gay and tell him "don't come out and tell us you're gay man" because he doesnt sleep around like they do
-He doesnt sleep around because he's scared of catching AIDs so he rather talk to women instead
-He loves women
-He has alot of females friends and alot of females he talk to
-He really likes a friend of his, but she's in New York, so he doesnt think the long distance thing would work out since he tried it before
-He's from Harrisberg (sp), PA
-He went to a Community College for 2 years, but he got so into working, that he quit school
-He works 2 jobs, the other is at a shoe store because he loves shoes
-He has 155 pairs of gym shoes (Jordans, Air Force one's, ect.)
OK, lol, this is all crazy. I guess i seem trust worthy, and i am, because folks seem to tell me just everything about them, plus i'm good at listening and letting people vent, because i be needing to vent alot of times and i hope that they'd do the same for me. I just don't understand why folks do that, but i guess it's ok, we all need someone to talk to, and i guess sometimes i do it too. So we're just talking, and i'm trying to get off the phone with him, which i couldve done a long time ago, but then i kinda wanted to keep talking cuz i was bored and was sort of enjoying the convo. So i finally said "Ok let me go, i using too many of my daytime minutes" and he's like "Wll if you ever want to talk again, just give me a call" so i'm like ok bye.
I don't know why i talked to him that long, or why i talked to him at all, but i guess i felt a little intrigued and flatter that he called me. I don't know, or maybe i talked because i'm attention hungry. Actually scratch that, because i couldve called anyone else if i was bored. But i don't know. I just like talking to people. I did feel bad talking to him though because it felt as if i was cheating or something, and i know that's how "James" said he felt when he'd talk to other females besides his mother an I. It's weird. I did tell "James" about what happened earlier on AIM, and he was like, or said something along the lines of (don't quote me on this): "You seem to have a pleasant personality that comes through when someone is talking ont he phone with you. It makes them want to get to know you and you just really seem like a nice person. That's a method of attraction". Shhh, i was like "It's a curse! alot of guys seem like they end up having a little crush on me but when they meet me they stop talking to me". But he was like it's not a curse and that it's just my personality. I know he probably said it more elequently then i put it, but it was something along those lines, and i probably left something out. I didn't have to tell him about it, but i felt like i had to. I hope he wasnt mad at me because of that, but i'll see when i talk to him in a little bit hopefully. I know he'll probably read this too, so don't be mad! :-)
It seems like people are coming out of the woodworks since i only have my mind on "James". "Yellow Man" seems to be popping up, and i don't want him anymore. This collection agent guy calling me. and no today this guy i use to talk to on BP that's in TX and use to work for United Airlines IM'ed me. I havent talked to him in months, well actually almost a year. It was always on and off with talking to him. He use to say that he'd fly from Dallas because he wanted to meet me so bad and that he liked me. We met in the College Chat like 3 years ago, well no i think 4 years ago. Today he said that he wish he was 4 years younger and that he could do things over so he'd be in Chicago so he could be with me. I was like "umm ok, what makes you think that i wouldve wanted to be with you. Why do you say you like me so much?" He was saying that (now we've ONLY talked to each other on the net and the phone, and he's seen my pics, but he knows nothing about me), that my voice was sexy, and that i was sexy, and that my personality, and that i was just a cool chick with a good sense of humor and that i was funny, and that i was classy and had the total package, something about me being so innocent, and that it was just something about me that he just had to have.
LMAO WTF? This dude never met me! Why do they act like that just from talking to me? I don't understand that. I would always have some guy from the net "liking" me, but i could never get a boyfriend. I guess me being so shy stopped that. I've never had a guy for real, in real life tell me that i was sexy or say anything along those lines, well maybe "James" sort of, but other than that no. Plus i don't have the confidence to even be sexy. Sexiness is all about confidence and that's something i don't have. I asked him why he all of a sudden stop talking to me a year ago and he said that he had bad intentions with me, and thats why he had to stop. He was dating someone at one point in time when he started talking to me again after the first time he dropped off the face of the earth. He was living with her, and he'd be calling me. I was thinking that it wasnt right, especially since he didnt want to give me his phone number, so i told him that he was cheating. He was like he didnt like the girl, and that he wanted ot leave her and couldnt. Sounds like a cheater. That's the same girl he's engaged to right now. I told him that, that i thought he said he didnt love her or something along those lines, and he was like "dang you remember everything". Then he was like "The net is just fantasty, it means nothing" but i was like folks do catch feelings ont he net and start liking folks. Because alot of times when it get to that point, the two people may want to meet.
It's crazy how there's SO many people that have girlfriends or boyfriends that come on the net to flirt with people and say that it's not cheating! Is it, i dont know, but it seems to be cheating when you cant let your girlfriend or boyfriend know that you're doing it. The internet sucks, and BP sucks! The only good thing that i've gotten out of it so far is my friend Paul thats up in Detroit that i met through BP (Though we havent actually met yet) 3 years ago, and "James". Oh well. I've written WAY TOO MUCH again, and i'm gonna stop here. My thoughts always sound jumbled together and like i'm just rambling on, but that's just me. Anyways, ya'll can leave ya'll thoughts on this, i'd be surprised if you read the whole post, but if you're like me, i like to read, so i usually read people's post all the way through, even if it takes me a minute. Have a blessed night! :-)
5 Comments:
Either he was ugly and desperate or you have an excellent phone voice. :-)
Toya...Toya...Toya...I'll keep you posted
Like I tolk you before...that guy is so creepy...you should try avoiding that guy...maybe even try to get him in trouble...call back and ask to talk to the manager. But with your luck, he is the manager.
eh eh...he sounds crazy. Poor thing has had a crazy lil life it seems, but that doesn't mean u gotta suffer with him...
I have to say this too...I agree with Butterfly Field...guys that usually talk about sex in the very first conversation are either horny and/or they want to sex you up, and nothing more...after saying that, I don't think that sex came up in our first conversation, except for the fact that you still have you V-Card...and I prolly said that I wish I still had mine...but you should still be careful of that guy.
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