Advice from a man...
...i dont have anything to write today, but i did get this in a email from my cousin who got it from our minister of music. I dont know if he wrote it, or if he got it from somewhere, but i figured i'll share this with the ladies. I know i need to take some of this advice my self (Some of it i already heard before, even from other men).If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for relationships that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then, you can't be friends. A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle.
There are many things that will catch your eye, but only a few will catch your heart...pursue those!
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant. Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within. God alone can change people.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT "bad" dogs. ? OKAY!
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a
two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. "Don't open another door without closing the other!"
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... LOOK for someone complementary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him, he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house.
Never co-sign for a man.
Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, and an entire life to forget them!
What do ya'll think about this? Do you ladies agree? Men? what is your take on this?
8 Comments:
Great advice! Congrats on graduating. :)
@ butterfly.....yea...that needs to be added too!
@princess...thanks, but i'm not graduating until Dec....i need to update that and change it...i still wish i was graduating this May 13th tho :-(
I'M CUTTING AND PASTING SENDING TO FRIENDS AS I TYPE THIS IN OTHER WINDOWS. THIS IS DA BOMB!
I need to get this for my cousins...I'll keep you posted
hear ye, hear ye! Plaster this in all places where women are abudant in number!
I think its great advice. I'm concerned about the mother's house part. What if she doesn't live there? LOL. I live in Ca. where folks are lucky or very wealthy to get their hands on a house.
I agree with this 100%. 100% I say!!!! This is great advice and I think ladies should really take heed to it.
In other news, I've moved. Here's my new address:
http://theessenceofsunnchine.blogspot.com
thanx :)
I have to admit, that is some pretty good advice.
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